tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post7470387282831697169..comments2023-06-30T16:07:17.325+01:00Comments on What now?: End of an eraJ-in-Waleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02390582364341730481noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post-27337404582188217232011-02-10T17:44:52.748+00:002011-02-10T17:44:52.748+00:00J - I agree that letting go can be hard. Experien...J - I agree that letting go can be hard. Experiencing change and "the new" can be difficult too, but there can also be something very dynamic and empowering about moving into new territory. At least, that has been my experience over the past couple of years.bevhttp://magickcanoe.com/blog14noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post-37641479386435067842011-02-10T00:27:38.668+00:002011-02-10T00:27:38.668+00:00I think that parting with things dear to us after ...I think that parting with things dear to us after a loss is especially difficult and I admire your courage in letting the remaining ducks go. I tend to hang on way longer to both the material and emotional than I should and it ends up making life more complicated in the end than if I had just faced facts and bit the bullet sooner. So you are to be recognized for your strength. Just because we can be strong doesn't take away the pain. Facing change and the new is very, very challenging - at least for me.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post-74427420738515240032011-02-09T10:11:15.724+00:002011-02-09T10:11:15.724+00:00Thank you everyone for the sympathy and encouragem...Thank you everyone for the sympathy and encouragement (and the back rub :D). I was quite matter-of-fact when they went, then later felt completely overwhelmed by a wave of something - not sure what it was.<br />And you are right Bev, I need to let go and concentrate on what will take their place. It is so hard sometimes though. New is good, isn't it? Or perhaps it is just ... new.J-in-Waleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02390582364341730481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post-43520207127110704902011-02-09T06:46:47.447+00:002011-02-09T06:46:47.447+00:00But the new will come and maybe it will be differe...But the new will come and maybe it will be different and better.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14751315680374413649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post-68384663406256627762011-02-09T01:24:31.051+00:002011-02-09T01:24:31.051+00:00We used to keep Muscovy ducks too. They would fol...We used to keep Muscovy ducks too. They would follow me up and down the aisle of the barn while I fed the goats. <br /><br />It is difficult to part with certain things from our past without those feelings of defeat. However, I think it helps if we can see the "letting go" as less of a loss or sign of defeat, and more of a "making a space" for some new thing in our lives. Today, while driving a visiting friend to the airport, she was asking about my nature photography business and I said I had all but destroyed it during the couple of years before and after Don's death, and that I didn't really care anymore. She commented that maybe something else will replace the nature photo work, and that has actually proven to be the case. Recently, I've begun painting and doing mixed media art. In so many ways, I've let go of large parts of my life. Sometimes, I feel a little like the Black Knight in Monty Python and the Holy Grail. So much has vanished or been chopped away over the past couple of years, but as parts of my life have drifted away, new parts have gradually drifted in. Maybe that's okay.bevhttp://magickcanoe.com/blog14noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post-89889799233420220932011-02-09T01:14:58.653+00:002011-02-09T01:14:58.653+00:00I'm so sorry, J.I'm so sorry, J.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743446066024389563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post-39675126707021217792011-02-09T00:02:41.693+00:002011-02-09T00:02:41.693+00:00oh J. I'm sorry my lovely friend. I felt you...oh J. I'm sorry my lovely friend. I felt your pain coming through your words ... sending you one of those hugs where you get your back rubbed xxxBoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695496303699631884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8189321271545893193.post-88216348184825273882011-02-08T23:38:10.264+00:002011-02-08T23:38:10.264+00:00my heart aches for you. you say you are watching ...my heart aches for you. you say you are watching all the reasons you and R came to live there move away. i had to move away from the only place i wanted to be. such opposite situations and yet they both are having the same affect.<br /><br />i am sorry. i see your photos and you have such a love place, such beautiful land around you. i hope you can reach and build on other things there, if that is what you wish. my wish for you is simple. i wish for whatever you want. i wish for you, peace.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.com